A Fertility Seminar

On Monday, we went to a fertility seminar. One of my other friends heard about it, so we joined her and her husband. When we got there, we found out it was taught by our doctor. We passed her in the hallway and she was surprised to see us. She told us we already knew everything. But there was a nurse practitioner there that had some advice on coping with the emotional aspects of infertility, and our doctor thought that would be beneficial for us.

As expected our doctor did a great job presenting and I was impressed in how well she explain things in lay terms. Usually she talks so fast to us in these crazy medical terms, I have to make her repeat things or write it down for me. It's funny that when you're going through this stuff talking about things like sex, hot testicles, vaginal suppositories, etc in a public forum, it doesn't seem weird at all.

The NP also did a great job and encouraged the females to find strong support systems and talk about the stress of infertility. She stressed that aspect was much more difficult for the women. And it would often be helpful for us to talk to another woman going through it, more than even our male partners.

I definitely have a handful of ladies that have been on speed dial as I wait for pregnancy test results and know the date I'm testing. I'm very thankful for their support and I know that they really feel the pain I'm going through.

Mike is always so strong during our sad times. I'll ask him how he's feeling and if he's struggling. He always tells me that he feels obligated to be the strong one. I do feel bad about this, because I know I couldn't be the strong one. I feel guilty getting upset often, so sometimes I'll sneak to the bathroom or cry in the shower, so he doesn't have to see me hurting.

After the seminar, we chatted with a few people there. I talked to one chick that has been in the fertility battle for 3 years. She told me about a local support group and invited me to join. I'll definitely be doing that. Not only do I look forward to having women that share this pain, but I also want to share my story and my faith and how it's helping us survive.

We have so much going on in our heads right now. So much we want to say on the blog and so much we don't want to even say or think. We're both in a really weird place right now and just taking things one day at a time. Prayers are definitely needed and requested. Be patient with us as we decide how and when to share our feelings.